Depression and anxiety are two sides of a very undesirable coin. They are opposites, but often go hand in hand. Depression typically feels like hopelessness despite what is actually going on in your life. From the outside, you may look like you have it all together, but on the inside you feel like you are... Continue Reading →
Thanks for Pointing Out How Quiet I Am, Part 2.
It’s been almost a year since my original post about being quiet and how people tend to like to point out the obvious. https://strictlyunstructured.com/2017/05/22/thanks-for-pointing-out-how-quiet-i-am-i-really-didnt-know/ While I still get the occasional comment that "you are so quiet," or "I forgot you were here because you don't talk." I've realized that people sometimes say things just to have... Continue Reading →
You Can Have It All…and Burnout Too.
“People experience burnout as a gradual erosion of their spirit and zest as a result of …too many pressures, conflicts, demands.”[i] Doing your best and “giving your all” is what many of us strive for on a daily basis. In our workouts, we are encouraged to push through burnout rounds and work to... Continue Reading →
I Am An Impostor
That feeling that you are a fraud, that one day people will find out you have no idea what you are doing, it has a name…Impostor Syndrome. It can strike when you get that first real job, when you leave the hospital with your first child, or when you graduate from college. You feel like... Continue Reading →
You Mean I Have to Show Up, AND Be On Time?
You Mean I Have to Show Up, and Be On Time? Commitment is a word that makes me cringe. Not in the sense of relationships, but rather in committing to fixed schedules, appointments, or even social events. I will walk away from a good deal at a gym or club because it requires a monthly... Continue Reading →
Timeless Rules of Etiquette
"When in the company of others refrain from reading letters, books, or papers." This is just one of 110 rules of etiquette that were followed by George Washington. While this rule may seem extreme, how many times have you been around a table with friends or family and everyone is looking at their phones instead... Continue Reading →
The House with Four Dogs
My household has four dogs: two black and white ones, a tan one, and one with brassy fur that looks like a dye job gone wrong. It can be chaotic and loud…but it is never boring. Just sitting and watching how four dogs, each with very different personalities, interact with each other is beyond entertaining. ... Continue Reading →
The Truth About Compliment Seekers
If anyone has ever asked you the question “does this make me look fat?” you probably already know that there is no right way to answer. This question can come in other forms, such as “do I look old,” “does this color look good on me,” or “do you like this dinner?” If you hesitate... Continue Reading →
Excuse Me, But I Think You Have the Wrong Impression
When my daughter was a toddler she was sorting through her Little People toys and giving each "person" an appropriate place in the Little People Village. When she got to a Little person who she felt did not have the right color hair or had on the wrong clothes, she would catapult the toy across... Continue Reading →
Thanks for Pointing Out How Quiet I Am, I Really Didn’t Know.
Thank you to all the people who ever pointed out that I am quiet because I really couldn’t have figured that out on my own. Okay…that sounds kind of rude, but it really is surprising how often people have called this to my attention. It used to really break me down when someone reminded me... Continue Reading →